I have written many times in Scamicide.com and in my book “The Truth About Avoiding Scams” about romance scams. Most of these online dating and romance scams involve some variation of the person you meet though an online dating site quickly falling in love with you and then, under a wide variety of pretenses, asking for money. As Valentine’s Day approaches there will certainly be an upswing in various romance scams. One romance scammer who will not be threatening vulnerable people looking for love is college student Olusegun Aroke who was recently sentenced in Nigeria to 24 years in prison for his online romance scams.
There are various red flags to help you identify romance scams. I describe many of them in detail in my book “The Truth About Avoiding Scams.” The most important thing to remember is to always be skeptical of anyone who falls in love with you quickly online without ever meeting you and early into the relationship needs you to wire money to assist them with a wide range of phony emergencies. Here are a few other things to look for to help identify a romance scam. Often their profile picture is stolen from a modeling website on the Internet. If the picture looks too professional and the person looks too much like a model, you should be wary. Particular phrases, such as “Remember the distance or color does not matter, but love matters a lot in life” is a phrase that turns up in many romance scam emails. Also be on the lookout for bad spelling and grammar as many of the romance scammers claim to be Americans, but are actually foreigners lying about where they are and who they are. Of course you should be particularly concerned if someone falls in love with you almost immediately. Often they will ask you to use a webcam, but will not use one themselves. This is another red flag. One thing you may want to do is ask them to take a picture of themselves holding up a sign with their name on it. In addition, ask for a number of pictures because generally when the scammers are stealing pictures of models from websites, they do not have many photographs. Ask for the picture to be at a particular place that you designate to further test them.